Hey, I’m really glad you made it.

Welcome to Silii Grief—named for “Say It Like It Is”—because grief deserves honesty, not sugarcoated sympathy or polished phrases that miss the point. This space is for the tender-hearted, the broken-hearted, the still-figuring-it-out-hearted. If you’re navigating the wild, weird terrain of grief (or just trying to make it through the day without screaming into a pillow), you’re in the right place.

I’m a queer grief coach and author, and my work lives in that messy intersection of death, mourning, identity, and the absurd beauty of being alive while carrying sorrow. Through coaching, books, and soft rebellion against toxic positivity, I offer support that’s real, grounded, and never shrink-wrapped into five tidy stages.

Here, you can book a 1:1 virtual session for personalized grief support—pajamas absolutely welcome. You’ll also find my books: honest, swear-friendly companions stitched with truth, hope, and zero pressure to “move on.” And of course, there are the Silii Sympathy Cards—created for folks who cringe at “sorry for your loss” but still want to say something that lands. They’re awkwardly tender, a little funny, and made to make people feel seen.

Wander, rage, cry, laugh, reach out—or just sit quietly with a cup of tea and know you’re not alone. I’m walking this road too. And I’m honoured to walk beside you.

Warmly,

Jules

What is Grief Coaching?

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So… You're Grieving. That Sucks.

Whether someone died, your life imploded, or you're just suddenly crying in the produce aisle, grief has entered the chat. And it doesn’t come with instructions.

People say weird things. Your brain is foggy. You're exhausted and wired. You're pretty sure you lost your will to fold laundry. (Understandable.) This is where grief coaching comes in.

What Even Is Grief Coaching?

Grief coaching is support that doesn’t treat you like a problem to fix. It’s not therapy. I’m not here to analyze your childhood or ask you how that makes you feel (unless you want to yell about it). I’m here to walk alongside you while you figure out what the hell to do with your grief—and your life.

We work with what’s real, not what’s “appropriate.” You get structure, tools, space, and someone who won’t flinch when you say the hard, weird, or funny thing.

Why Work With a Grief Coach?

1. Because everyone else is acting weird around you
Your grief is not contagious. But you'd never know it from the way people keep changing the subject or offering you casseroles and unsolicited opinions. Coaching gives you a space where you can say the real stuff—like “I miss them” and "also, they drove me up the wall.”

2. Because you need tools, not clichés
We’re not lighting 47 candles or pretending it’s all part of some beautiful plan (although, ritual can be beautiful). We’re using actual strategies—like writing prompts, rituals, and mindfulness tricks that you can try between crying in your car and doom-scrolling.

3. Because the grief isn’t going away, but life is still happening
You still have to feed yourself. Pay bills. Maybe show up to work. Maybe not. Coaching helps you build a life that includes your grief without letting it steamroll you. Think of it like emotional scaffolding while the renovation is ongoing.

4. Because you deserve support that doesn’t suck
Grief is not a weakness. It's a full-body, full-soul response to the death of someone or the loss of something that mattered. Coaching gives you space to grieve on your own terms—with someone who isn’t trying to wrap it up in a bow.

Bottom Line?

Grief is hard. You don’t have to do it alone.
There’s no magical 5-step process. But there is someone who will show up, hold space, and help you find solid ground again—even if you’re currently eating cereal for dinner and yelling into the void. If that sounds like what you need, reach out.

We’ll make space for your grief and your humanity. Swearing welcome.

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